Trusting in God...

 Where do we find security in love?

Our problem is that we expect to feel secure. I don't believe this is something new to us to understand. Security in relationships is something we all want and all need.

Many of us have had past crises and problems, yet our worries and anxieties continue in the present. We believe that our situation causes our fears and we say, "If only things were different, I could relax." Yet even when everything is going well, we still get anxious that something unseen is amiss. When we are immersed in our fears, unable to let go and live life joyfully, we may become emotionally absent from our loved ones.

Our problem is not that life is insecure. Of course it is. Our problem is that we expect to feel secure. We put great energy into achieving control and having everything "just right," but quite naturally we end up without control. Then we think something is wrong. Instead, we can choose to turn our fears over to God. We do that by talking about our fears, taking the steps we can, and trusting God for the outcomes. Then we return to emotional contact in our relationship.

Tell your spouse or partner something you fear and turn it over to God.